iTunes Organised TvShows and name parsing

so my tvshows naming structure is tvshows/dexter/season 1/01 pilot.mp4

media player does not seem to scan these correctly. 

in xbmc i use the advanced settings.xml 






is there an equivalent for media or something i can edit to make this work. 

i noticed in media.meta.db there is a filename_parsing_schemes table not sure if i can use that in someway

my library is huge and changing the naming on all of them is something i dont want to do primarily.

also all my shows have perfect embedded metadata by iflicks